Visiting family

Visiting family

by Crystal
(Albany N.Y.)

My boyfriend and I live in Florida and recently came up north (drove up!) to visit his family and friends. I was rather shocked when we went to stay at one of his son's home. There were no towels laid out for us, no top sheet on our bed and we shared a bathroom with their 2 children which was okay but since the children wasted toilet paper no extra was left in the bathroom so we had to ask for more 2 times!

There was no welcome dinner nor any other dinner or lunch. I suppose they would have served us some if we asked but who wants to do that?
Also, their schedule never changed and when my boyfriend wanted to take his grandson out it always seemed he had camp or a little league game to play.
I retreated into our room and that's where I stayed most of the time which I think he thought was a little rude. But I just could not warm up to these people. Was I so wrong?

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Sep 10, 2013
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by: Kathleen

I feel your pain in some ways; however, you should realize that not everyone has good guest etiquette, and not all homes are well-appointed. While, ideally, the towels and toilet paper shouldn't have been an issue, they're fairly small ones. I don't "lay out" towels for my guests, either, but I do make sure guests know they can find such things. I also make sure they know where cups, glasses, coffee and tea supplies are kept in the event they need them. And far as the bedding goes, I'm also one of those who likes both bottom and top sheets, but I've stayed at a few places where those aren't considered critical. It's a little icky, but I can deal with it. I also like to cook for my guests, but given that it was "dad" visiting, they may not have viewed the visit as anything more than casual. (It's also good visiting etiquette to treat your hosts to a meal.) If they visit you in Florida, lead by example, and if you do a return visit, you might want to consider staying in a hotel--and making specific arrangements ahead so that they understand you want some family time.

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by: Kathleen

I feel your pain in some ways; however, you should realize that not everyone has good guest etiquette, and not all homes are well-appointed. While, ideally, the towels and toilet paper shouldn't have been an issue, they're fairly small ones. I don't "lay out" towels for my guests, either, but I do make sure guests know they can find such things. I also make sure they know where cups, glasses, coffee and tea supplies are kept in the event they need them. And far as the bedding goes, I'm also one of those who likes both bottom and top sheets, but I've stayed at a few places where those aren't considered critical. It's a little icky, but I can deal with it. I also like to cook for my guests, but given that it was "dad" visiting, they may not have viewed the visit as anything more than casual. (It's also good visiting etiquette to treat your hosts to a meal.) If they visit you in Florida, lead by example, and if you do a return visit, you might want to consider staying in a hotel--and making specific arrangements ahead so that they understand you want some family time.

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