As the Stepmother of the Groom should I be invited to the wedding?

by Debbie
(Blue Ridge)

My oldest stepson of 14 years is getting married soon. I have not heard any of the details of this wedding except form people who have received invitations. Is this proper? My stepson and I get along just fine, he is allowing his fiance to make all of the decisions which is fine but I have not even received a shower invitation.


Aug 10, 2011
Stepson's Wedding
by: Wendy (Modern Manners and Etiquette)

Thank you for your question.

The situation you are describing is a difficult one. It is never easy to find out about a wedding for someone you are close to second-hand, especially if it is you stepson.

It is not proper to not include close family in a wedding, however it does happen. Your best bet at this time would be to talk to your stepson about it. You spoke of the good relationship you two have shared, so talking would be your best bet. However, the conversation should take place between just the two of you.

As you are talking to him, be sure to stay approachable and not get defensive. I have known so many relationships that have been derailed during a wedding. This is not what you want to have happen by any means.

Best wishes!