Bridal Shower Etiquette
Bridal shower etiquette has been traditionally about the maid
of honor hosting a party that helps the bride get ready to take the
step into marriage. It has changed...
It has been a long held
tradition for the maid of honor to
host the shower, now they can be hosted by the mother of the
bride, mother of the groom, close friends and co-workers. It is always
best to talk with the
maid of honor when making your plans, so that she does not feel
slighted in her duties.
The bridal shower should take place 4
to 6 weeks
prior to the wedding.
Any time after that the bride will be quite busy finalizing her plans
for the wedding. It is a good idea to double check with her
to see what her plans are. Bridal shower invitation etiquette states
that the invitations should be sent out 2 to 4 weeks before the shower.
The bridal shower is the time for a small, sometimes not so quiet,
gathering of the bride's
closest friends and family
. Good bridal shower etiquette
states that there should be no more than 15 people in attendance.
The hostess of the shower should also introduce everyone at
the shower so that everyone can become acquainted and have fun.
Can there be more than
one bridal shower held?
The answer to that is a definite YES!
There are times when family, friends and co-workers want to
celebrate the bride and her happiness. When this is the case, there
someone different should host each shower.
Is it okay for the groom
to come too?
Bridal shower etiquette has changed from an 'all girls party' to 'groom
included'. Couples showers are becoming more popular. This way the
groom gets to share in the gift opening with his bride. He may also end
up wearing some of the cute nighties she receives.
As the bride opens her presents, she
will need someone to write down
the gift and the giver
so that she can express her
gratitude to them.
Good bridal shower manners will be shown when the bride
thanks the person at the shower and uses good thank you note etiquette
Bridal Shower Themes
Bridal showers can have different
. It is up to the hostess to determine the theme of
the shower. It is good bridal shower etiquette to see what the bride
needs and plan accordingly.
- Time of Day
hostess of this type of shower will assign a time of day to the guests.
Each guest will bring a gift that coincides with something that will
happen at that time of day.
- Stock the
Pantry Shower: With this shower the guests will have in
mind things that would stock a perfect pantry for the bride and groom.
I received 20 cake mixes with my stock the pantry shower. They all came
in handy within the first year.
Shower: Each guest is assigned a letter of the alphabet
and it is their responsibility to find gifts that represent their
- Months Shower:
This shower will give the bride different gifts that reflect the
different months. Decorations are wonderful for this type of shower.
Shower: Why not help the bride to have memories from each
guest as well as the opportunity to record or display the memories she
will be making as she embarks on her new life?
- Garden Shower:
This shower will center around a beautiful garden for the bride and
groom to create. Guests can purchase anything that will create a
Shower: The groom may or may not be excited about this
one. This shower will help the bride have on hand the things that will
be necessary for her groom to complete the honey-do list.
Shower: Guests are given a holiday that they will shop
for. This will help the bride to be ready for her different holidays
throughout the year.
- Rooms Shower:
This shower will focus on each room of the house and
help the bride to stock them. Take a tour from the kitchen to the
Shower: This is the GIRL shower. Gifts are centered around
cute nighties to naughty teddies. Lotions and other goodies to make her
feel beautiful for her groom are totally acceptable. Anything goes at
The best part of bridal shower etiquette is the have fun and enjoy yourself
This is a wonderful time to celebrate new life, love and friendships.
The bride will be forever grateful for the gifts, but most importantly,