First Date Etiquette
~Make a Classy First Impression~
Using first date etiquette is vital when you are trying to
someone you are out with for the first time. These dates can be
difficult as you try to navigate through the unknown. Following a few
simple steps will help you relax and enjoy yourself.
Men and women alike are looking for someone they love to spend
their time with. Dating
is a perfect way to get to know someone on a
The first date is a good time
to assess the
personality and qualities of each other. The following is a first date
etiquette list of what to do and what not to do on a first date.
First Date Do's
- Look Good,
Grooming is vital for the first date, and any date for that matter.
Take the time to shower, do you hair, do your makeup (for the ladies),
dress nice (your clothing and dress are very important) and apply that
special scent. This will help you feel
comfortable in your own skin.
- Be On Time. When
you go to
pick up your date, which you should do, be on time. If you are being
picked up for your date, be on time. This shows respect for each other
from the get go.
- Give Sincere
It is good to make your date feel good about themselves. Whether it be
that they look really nice, they have good taste in food, or whatever
impresses you, tell them. It is not good first date etiquette to give
- Make Eye
date will be watching you to see if you look in their eyes. People who
avoid eye contact have something to hide. This can be disturbing to
your date. Looking them in the eyes will show them that you are truly
interested in them and what they have to say.
- Use Your
Manners. This is not just dating advice for men, women
need them too. Men, open doors for your date. Women, let
Thanks you's, please's, you're welcome's all go a long way to show how
polite you are on a first date.
- Keep The
Conversation Flowing. Show
interest in your date by asking questions about their family, job,
interests and hobbies. First date conversations should be about
learning who the other person is.
- Flirting With
Your Date Is A Good Thing.
This shows your date that you like them and are having fun. Make each
other laugh. A wink and a smile can do wonders for that person.
First Date Do Not's
- Do Not Talk
On Your Cell Phone During The Date. It
is plain rude to sit and chat with someone else on the phone when your
date is sitting across the table from you. Unless it is an emergency,
just leave the phone alone.
- Give Your
Date Space. When
you are talking to your date, respect their personal space bubble.
There is nothing that will shut a date down faster than personal space
invasion. If you have ever seen the Seinfeld episode of the 'close
talker' you will understand how irritating this can be.
- It Is Not All
About You. As
much as you may like to talk about yourself and all of your wonderful
accomplishments, your date is not there to have an all encompassing
first date course on 'YOU'. Keep it real and balanced.
- Avoid The
This list can be lengthy, yet if not adhered to, the conversation can
turn south quickly. Religion, politics, past relationships, break-ups,
gossip, marriage, kids and secrets are off limits.
If your relationship progresses, there will be time for all of that
- Don't Be
Someone You Are Not. This
is bad, bad, bad first date etiquette. If you can't be yourself around
this person, then they are not worth your time. Stay true to your
values and ideals. No
one is worth changing them for.
- Do Not Be Crude. No
belching. No farting. No swearing. No fighting. No gossip. No flirting
with other people. No eyeballing anyone else. You are not out with the
guys (or girls for that matter), you are out with someone special.
The end of the date is a perfect time to show first date etiquette. The
eternal question always presents itself: What about a kiss?
Well that is a personal, date-by-date scenario. Do what feels right at
the time. It is never good to pressure the other party into doing
something they don't want to do. I will never forget one
date I had. The whole way home the poor boy gripped the steering wheel,
strangling the poor thing. I fully had no intentions of kissing him,
but he didn't know that. When we got to my house I bounced up to the
door step and said, "thank you!" Just then he deflated and relaxed. It
wasn't right & it was the best ending for the date.
The best way to end a first date is, "Can I call you again?
This is only if you intend to do so, this is good dating etiquette. Be
sincere when you say thank you
and make sure you let them know if you had a good time. Again, use eye
contact, then they will know you mean it. Best wishes out there
navigating the dating world!
It is a good time!