Funeral Thank You Etiquette
Funeral thank you etiquette is one way to help start healing
your loss. When you express your gratitude for those who support you
during your time of loss, your
heart will begin to find hope.
Taking the time to express your gratitude to the people who
helped you during the funeral time can be helpful. Funeral thank you
etiquette states that you do not need to send a thank you note to
everyone who attended the wake and funeral. For those who came and
supported you, the
thanks you gave them at the time is quite sufficient.
There are those who you will want to send a thank you note to.
They are the ones who
played a major role in the funeral and the support you received.
Thank you note etiquette states that you should send them to:
- Speakers at the funeral
- Those who brought in food for you and your family
- Anyone who provided babysitting
- Those who sent flowers, plants, or any type of gift
- Anyone who sent a financial gift to you
- Those who made a donation to charity or a fund in honor of
The list may seem long and
overwhelming at times. You
don't need to do it all in
Writing a few cards at a time is perfectly
acceptable. Etiquette funeral tradition states that the notes should
be sent within 2-4 weeks, however modern etiquette is a lot more
forgiving of the time.
Funeral thank you etiquette allows for any member of the family to
write the note, not just the recipient of the gift. Do not be afraid to ask for help
There are many people who are wondering what they can do to help.
The notes should be handwritten
You do not need to write long notes either, two or three lines of
gratitude are acceptable. Most funeral homes will provide you with
thank you cards, however if they do not, you may use any type of thank
you card you choose.
If you are expressing gratitude for a financial gift or donation, it is
good funeral manners to let the givers know the "generous donation" was
helpful to you at this
. You may want to mention what you used the money for,
however you do not need to mention the amount they gave.
Sometimes it is difficult to come up with the appropriate words of gratitude
on your own. Here are some ideas for you to use if you need some help
- Thank you for your thoughtfulness at this time.
- Thank you for taking time to support us during this
- Your thoughts and prayers have been received with much
- The beautiful (floral arrangement, plant, gift) you sent is
so much appreciated.
- Thank you for your kind donation of _______ in memory of
- Thank you for speaking at the funeral. Your kind words were
The gratitude will be felt for a long time in your heart after you have
sent the notes. As you write the notes, use the time to reflect on the
love and support you have received. This
can give you strength to carry
After my father-in-law passed away, my mother-in-law sent
the kindest, most heartfelt note of gratitude to my husband. He spoke
at the funeral and was honored to be a pallbearer. The note bonded them
together even more through that time of sorrow and loss. There is
something about giving love and gratitude that binds our hearts
together and makes us stronger.