Gift is to all extended family members.
Family members wish to plan their own vacations.
Family members wish to pay their own way so they aren't made to feel they have to do everything with and the person paying for the vacation.
Mar 09, 2011
by: Kevin (Modern Manners Admin)
When a family member pays for a vacation, you are somewhat obligated to do what they want. If they paid for it and you went and did your own thing, it is rude to not go along with what they want to do.
It would be better to have a conversation with the person (people) that are paying for the vacation and let them know that you would like to pay for the vacation so that you can do other things during the vacation and see how they react.
You do need to be careful when talking to them because you do not want to appear ungrateful for their generosity in paying for the vacation. If you feel that they might be offended in asking, you should go along with them and do what they want to do, and then take your own family on a separate vacation to do the things that you want to do.