Our mother passed away. Should we send notes to our aunts, uncles and cousins for their flowers as we would others?
Jul 27, 2011
Thank you notes after the funeral
by: Kevin (Modern Manners and Etiquette)
First of all, my condolences to you and the rest of the family for your loss. May you find peace and comfort during this time.
Traditional etiquette does state that you should send a thank you note to anyone (including family members) that participated. This would include flowers, clergyman, or those that were part of the ceremony.
It is recommended that you send the thank you notes within two weeks of the funeral. That provides enough time for you to handle the critical details associated with the passing of your mother.
It is also appropriate if you choose, to share a memory with the family member in the thank you note. It helps them grieve as well as it shows that you were thoughtful of them by sending a thank you card that did not have the same verbiage for each card. That is not required, but it adds a nice touch.
Again, we wish you the best during this difficult time.