Thank You Note Etiquette
~Expressing Your Gratitude With Class~
Thank you note etiquette is a classy way to show your
gratitude when someone has given you a gift, offered you a meal or
helped you in a time of need. It is an art that unfortunately is
becoming lost in the shuffle of life.
The words 'Thank You' have a powerful effect on everyone.
These two simple words show that what you have received,
whether it is
a service, a smile, a gift or even advice, is something that you
appreciate. They have the power to change a person's day,
Thank you note etiquette is simple. Many times people do not
send them because they feel like they don't have the 'perfect words' to
express their gratitude. The greatest thing about thank you notes is
that there are no
'perfect words' other than 'Thank You!' that you need
With every thank you note, there are a few things that you
will need to do. The list is not that long, nor is it too complicated.
- Handwrite the
thank you note. You should take the time with each note to
use your handwriting. It shows that you took the time to express your
gratitude. When you type a note up on the computer, mass print it and
send it out, the heart of the 'thank you' is missing.
- Be specific. It
is important that you mention specifically the gift or act of kindness
that you received. It is even wonderful to add something extra, like
how you are using the gift, what it is about the gift that you love or
what the gift means to you. That is the heart of the 'thank you'.
- Monetary gift
etiquette. If you have received a monetary gift, the most
important thing you should
not do is mention the amount. Instead express your
gratitude for their generosity and mention what the money will be used
for. This will allow the ones who gave you the money to know that you
are using it for something that you need.
- Send them
quickly. This is where most notes get lost in the
shuffle. If you are like me you have so many good intentions of sending
a thank you note. However, it is so easy to put this off and let it go.
Good thank you note etiquette is shown when you send the note within
the first week. There are a few exceptions and we will cover them in a
Always Send A Thank You Note When...
There are situations when you should always, always, always send a
thank you note.
Presents. When your guests have shown wonderful wedding
present etiquette it is vital
that you express your gratitude for this. If you receive wedding
presents prior to your wedding day, send the thank you note as quickly
as possible. For the gifts you receive at the wedding and after, you
have up to six weeks to get them sent out.
and Gifts of Sympathy. This is a wonderful time to
reflect on the people who were there for you during a time of loss.
Taking the time to write out a sentiment of gratitude will help your
heart start to heal.
- Bridal Shower
Gifts. Even though you say thank you when you open the
gift, it is good thank you note etiquette to send a note too. It is a
simple way of sharing your joy.
- Baby Shower
Gifts. As any mother knows, those who help her get
started with her baby needs are so very wonderful. It is acceptable to
write these notes, hold on to them until after the baby is born and
then slip a picture of the cutie in with the note. It is a fun way to
share the news and say thank you all at the same time.
- The Hostess
of a Party That Was Thrown in Your Honor. When someone
thinks enough of you to throw you a party for any reason, be sure to
express your gratitude here.
Stays. Saying thank you for time shared and gifts given
when you are in the hospital for whatever reason is always good. It is
definitely acceptable to wait until you are home and recovered before
you send these notes out.
When you have reached a wonderful milestone in your
life or accomplished something great, send a note to those who shared
this time with you.
Dinners. When you have been invited to a formal dinner, a
quick note of gratitude is always in good taste. There are times when
these dinners are hosted by your employer. A thank you note is good
Favors and Acts of Kindness. One
day I took dinner for the family of a friend who had become ill. I did
it because I didn't want her to worry about what they were
to eat and also to give her husband the time he needed to take care of
her and the family. She sent me the sweetest thank you note a few days
later. It meant a lot to me that she would do that. It is a small
gesture that will bring your friends closer to you.
are not required, however they do show good business etiquette. It will
keep you on their minds and show that you pay attention to detail.
Generally thank you notes are written on a 'Thank You' card,
however it is acceptable thank you note etiquette to write them out on
a piece of stationary. Whatever you decide to use, just make sure you
do it. A simple act of
gratitude goes a long way