Wedding Guest Etiquette
~Keep It Classy~
Wedding guest etiquette is vital for attending any wedding. It is
imperative that you, as a guest, keep
The bride and groom have spent months, even years planning for this day
and you wouldn't want to be 'that guest' that everyone talks about
Before The Wedding
It all begins when you receive your invitation. It is good wedding
guest etiquette to respond
as soon as possible. If you already know that you will be able to
attend, then fill out the RSVP the same day. This shows good wedding
rsvp etiquette. The bride and groom would
also love to receive a personal note of congratulations with the card,
so feel free to do so.
If you will need to make arrangements to get to the wedding, make them as soon as possible
Usually the couple will have hotel information for you to make
reservations. This way you will know whether or not you can attend.
Also, if something comes up that you need to cancel, do so with a phone
call or in person. It shows good wedding guest manners.
Next, it is time to shop for the gift. Using the registry
will help you know what the couple needs and wants. Look at your
relationship with the couple when you are making your selection, it
will help you select something meaningful for them. Be sure to send the
gift to the address provided, either with the registry or on the
envelope. This way you do not have to take the gift to the wedding,
which is indeed a faux pas. It is a good idea to send a gift even if
you are not attending. This
will show them that you care.
for the wedding is also a way for you to show good wedding guest
etiquette. It is never a good idea for a guest to wear white or
off-white clothing and dress to a wedding ceremony. Wear something that
will fit the time
of year and the location of the wedding. If the ceremony is taking
place in a church, be modest in your attire. It shows respect. For the
men, a dark suit with a tie is always a good way to go.
The Wedding Ceremony
is good wedding etiquette to arrive at least 15 minutes prior to the
start of the ceremony. If you are not familiar with the area where it
will take place, take some time in the days leading up to the wedding
to know how to get to where it will be held.
Normal wedding tradition
will have an usher lead you to your seat. Usually the family and
friends of the bride sit on the left, while those of the groom sit on
Please turn off your cell phone during the ceremony. Nobody
wants to hear your phone ring.
right. If it happens that you arrive late, wait until the
wedding coordinator or an usher can seat you. If they are not
available, and the procession is in progress, wait outside until
everyone has entered. At that point, slip in a side door and choose a
seat toward the back. Avoid the center aisle, unless there is no other
If you are attending a wedding at a church, of which you do not belong,
of their traditions. They will appreciate the fact that you are there
and are willing to take part in their celebration.
When the bride enters the chapel, it
is wedding guest etiquette to stand
. Take your cue from
the person officiating the wedding. Remain standing until you are
directed to be seated.
As a wedding guest, do
not take pictures
during the ceremony. The bride and groom have hired a professional to
capture the memories. It is not good wedding etiquette to interfere
with someone who getting paid to get the 'best angle'.
the ceremony is completed, remain seated until after the wedding party
has left the chapel. Wait until the family of the bride and groom have
been escorted out. It is then proper to stand and leave.
The Wedding Reception
you arrive at the wedding reception, it is good wedding guest etiquette
to wait in the receiving line, if they are having one. When you congratulate the couple
keep your greeting brief and happy.
At the reception, make
sure you know where you are seated
The bride and groom have taken a lot of time making sure the seating
arrangements are such that everyone will enjoy themselves. Introduce
yourself to those at the table that you are not acquainted with. It is
time to enjoy yourself, so do just that.
A wedding reception is indeed a celebration
As a good wedding guest, you will have the opportunity to enjoy
yourself. Dancing is a great part of the celebration, however it is
good manners to wait until the couple has had their first dance before
you decided to get your groove on. Also, keep your alcohol consumption
to a minimum. Nobody wants to deal with the embarrassment that comes
with a drunk wedding guest.
Keep yourself classy
length of a reception depends upon the bride and groom. They are
typically 3-4 hours. It is good etiquette to stay at least until the
cake is cut. You will know when things are beginning to wrap up and it
is okay to leave. Make sure you give the couple one last hug before you
leave. Expressing your gratitude for the opportunity to share the day
with them is a great way
Wedding guest etiquette gives you the chance to show the couple how
much you really care about them. You will be able to enjoy the time
with them and the other guests by being the classy person you are