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  • Is there a certain dollar amount I should spend on a gift?
  • Do I need to invite the ex-wife and her family to the wedding when I get remarried?
  • If I go to a baby shower for triplets, do I need to purchase a gift for all three babies?
As you can see, an etiquette question can be any type or on any situation. In fact, you may want to ask a question just to see if you can stump us!

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Do I have the right to be angry? 
I remarried 3 years ago and we are attending my Brother's wedding this winter. I just found out that my Ex-Husband has been invited as well! Last year, …

We have been invited to the neighbour's sons wedding reception. We only know them to say "hi" to. What is the protocol for attending? 
We have lived in this house for a year and met the neighbors briefly, general introductions, and a passing "hi" when we see them. Their son is getting …

I want to give a baby shower for my daughter and son-in-law 
How do I plan a co-ed baby shower? Is it appropriate? My daughter and her husband live in another state and I want to host a baby shower for both of them …

Do I bite the bullet and let her come? 
My Fiance's ex-wife is extremely nice to me. For this I am very thankful. However, they have a son that just turned 2, and I have been around since he …

Do I need to explain myself on why my husband and I are not atteding his daughter's wedding with his ex and her family? 
My step daughter is getting married and has invited her mother and her family. This is the same daughter that has said her mother is crazy and can't stand …

What are the rules of etiquette concerning giving a wedding gift when not invited to the wedding. 
My nephew recently got married. His mother, my sister emailed the family to let us know he was getting married in a month. She let us know that only immediate …

How much money should I give my stepson for his wedding? 
My husband of 23 years passed away in May. My stepson is getting married. I don't know how much money I should give them. I don't have a lot of money. …

How much should I give for my boyfriend's sister's wedding? 
My boyfriend's sister is getting married and I received my own separate invitation. My boyfriend is not getting the couple a gift because he is still a …

Funeral Etiquette  
My husband and I are second marriages. He has adult children I never had any. I know his daughter is considered immediate family even if it's by marriage …

Is it proper to attend an ex huband's funeral when our adult children are involved?  
Rx-husband passed away 8/25/2011 with ARD and complications of pneumonia and heart by pass surgery. Children attended his last 3 months of life. They live …

Reply for marriage invitation and doing good job research work. 
My friend who is getting married soon, both Bride and Groom studied with me. We had some misunderstandings in those days because the boy was a close friend …

If I was not invited to the wedding and now am invited to the baby shower, why? 
Know the person for 9 years and have gone through 4 kids getting married. Known 2 of the kids and have been around for conversations of the wedding etc. …

Is it bad manners to wish an ex-boss a "Happy Birthday"? 
Details are many, but simply put: I worked for a partner in a law firm for almost three (3) years and quit on a Monday morning approximately eighteen …

Not invited to step-son's wedding 
My fiance's son is getting married and I am clearly not invited nor wanted at the wedding. My fiance left his wife for me and there is a lot of hating …

Should I attend my friend's family reunion? 
My longtime friend is hosting a family reunion at her home the end of October and wants me to attend. I live hundreds of miles away and would have to fly …

Do I need to invite my husband's family to his b-day if I throw one? 
I come from a very traditional family where everyone helps each other when needed. Since I married my husband, his side of the family have not been so …

If you want to plan a birthday party for a friend should you ask their spouse first? 
A friend of my wife decided she wanted to throw a birthday party for my wife. So she went and asked my wife if she had any plans for her birthday and she …

Excluding "Relative" from wedding guest list 
My son will be married in October. Recently, my younger sister returned to an abusive husband (this, after having had to get a restraining order against …

Should ex's wife be invited to family bridal shower? 
Two of my step-daughters are in husband's niece's wedding. His ex was invited because her daughters are in the wedding. This has happened several times …

We are retired. Visited son, daughter-in-law and grandson who lived across country. We stayed at a hotel. What hospitality is required on their part and ours? 
My husband and I are older and we took an arduous trip across country to visit. They were giving a large party for their one year old's first birthday. …

is it right for your boyfriend's mom to invite his ex-girlfriend to our baby shower? 
My boyfriend's mom wants to invite his ex-girlfriend to our baby shower, I don't think it is right. His sister is also having a wedding and his ex-girlfriend …

Should a girl return a promise ring if she breaks up with the one who gave it to her? 
A girl that I work with received a promise ring from her boyfriend in November. She broke up with him in March for reasons not related to something wrong …

Does one throw a baby shower for a second baby? 
A friend of my daughter has asked to help if there is going to be a shower, it is her second baby, can I throw a shower? Perplexed Mom Apr 21, 2011 …

How to tell family not to bring their dogs to visit? 
Invited brother, wife and daughter to stay at my Home for a graduation party at our home for my daughter and they did not ask but told me they were bringing …

Do brushing and flossing have a place in any other room besides the bathroom?  
My friend has slept over on occasion and I have recently found him picking his teeth and brushing in my bedroom. When I asked him what he was doing, he …

Fiance's ex-wife planning his birthday party. 
My fiance is turning 50 this year. His ex wife called me to inform me that she is throwing him a birthday bash and wanted to see if I would "co-host" it …

Who to make the check out to for a wedding gift 
Great niece is getting married in September and I just received the announcement. I will not be able to attend. I would like to send money for their wedding …

Adults only weddings and receptions... why do some people/family/friends not "get it" and PUSH to get their little darlings invited or worse, bring them anyway??? 
Beautiful wedding and reception with only adults invited. One couple brought their toddler children anyway (knowing they were not invited). The children …

I was asked to invite my sister-in-law's whole family to my daughter's birthday 
My mother in law told me I need to invite my sister-in-law's family. I love my sister-in-law but I was not planning on inviting her mom, dad and sister, …

Should my Husband's ex-wife be invited to his brother's wedding? 
My husband's ex-wife and I get along and are cordial with one another due to the fact that she and my husband do have two children together. The family …

How do we word the invitation to let people know we would like to fill a basket at the baby shower with all of the little necessities a baby needs? 
We are going to have a baby reveal shower. We would like to have a basket there for everyone to place a small gift item with all of the little necessities …

How do I deal with my Mother in law? 
She does not want to see me or the baby, and she still wants us to give her up for adoption. I am 23 yrs old, and my fiancee is 20. She always makes him …

I am aggressive toward men I feel interested in Not rated yet
Yes, it might feel weird but this what happens. when I like a guy, I feel annoyed, perhaps it's the fear to loose him, or maybe because I feel then he's …

What do I bring if my family is invited for lunch on Sunday? Not rated yet
My son is friends with their son and they are inviting us to meet us, we have met them unofficially when dropping off our son and when they pick up their …

I am having my 35th Birthday Dinner at a frequent dining location. Should I explain on the invite that dinner is Dutch or should I assume they know it is? Not rated yet
I want to share my 35th Birthday with 20 of my closest friends at a frequent dining location. This will give all of my friends who don't know each other …

How do I respond? Not rated yet
My daughter was invited to homecoming by one boy. She said "yes, but we will go just as friends". He agreed. This was four weeks before homecoming. …

Save the Date/Wedding invitation Question Not rated yet
Originally my fiance and I thought of doing a traditional wedding with a guest list of 185, but we switched to a destination wedding in which only immediate …

Should I bring a wedding gift? Not rated yet
Hi! I am a hairstylist and in a few days I will be traveling out of state to do wedding hair for one of my clients and her wedding party. I have done this …

Is this appropriate? Not rated yet
My husband's mother is having a surprise 80th birthday celebration. My husband and I have been married for 23 years. He was married three times before …

Am Wrong for being upset that my husband did not give me a 50th birthday party, yet he is planning a 30th birthday party for his favorite neice Not rated yet
I am furious and hurt at the same time. I celebrated my 50th birthday this year which is a milestone. My husband did not help me with the planning, organizing …

Writing a thank you when they gave no gift Not rated yet
I have 3 couples who are wealthy, attended my wedding, and did not give a gift. What should I write in the thank you? How about: Thanks for coming, …

Is it proper to send a thank you note to the bride and mother of the bride? Not rated yet
I am not a family member, however was included as such. My relationship is, simply put, "significant other" of the bride's father. The father and I have …

Should I invite my new in-laws, to my son and his wife's co-ed baby shower? Not rated yet
We have been married for two years. My husband has a large family (parents, 2 brothers and 5 sisters) and they are all married with children. Although …

Is it appropriate to attend your ex-daughter-in-law's wedding? Not rated yet
My son and former daughter-in-law divorced 6 years ago. My son has since remarried and has a son with his new wife. He also shares a son with his ex. …

What is the impact of manners and etiquette to young adults? Not rated yet
Do they play a vital role in a modern and standard lifestyle for young generation? Aug 31, 2011 Manners in Young Adults by: Wendy (Modern Manners …

Bridal shower etiquette Not rated yet
I have received 2 invitations, and I have heard there is possibly a 3rd, to a close friends daughter's bridal showers. My daughter is also in the wedding …

Why would your fiance's ex-girlfriend want to add you on facebook? Not rated yet
I was curious because, I don't see the need to talk to any ones ex, it would only cause trouble. So in this particular situation, I prefer to just leave …

Is it ok to invite the mother of an ex-boyfriend to my wedding? Not rated yet
I moved out of state for a guy and became really good friends with his mother. He and I were together for several years, but amicably split. I have stayed …

Am I obligated to help with a baby shower if asked? Not rated yet
Hi ~ I was asked recently if I'd be willing to help throw a baby shower for a friend I met through work. This co-worker and I have had issues maintaining …

How to approach this situation properly, funeral and birthday same day? Not rated yet
My sister just died, her funeral, internment, and family dinner is on the day of her husband's birthday. We would like to know how to properly handle this …

Going to my best friend's sister's birthday party... Not rated yet
My best friend's sister is having a birthday party. I will be hanging out with my friend not participating at her sister's party. Do I need to bring a …

Is it appropriate for me to attend my boyfriend's grandson's birthday party at his ex-wife's home? Not rated yet
I have been living with my boyfriend for about 5 months now. His daughter that lives with his ex-wife is giving their grandson a birthday party that will …

How do I be professional though I do not know anything after promotion to a high office surrounded by witty young people , who observe me in an uneasy way , as I was promoted late?  Not rated yet
I am one of the prominent people in the church, and I was in the position to take over the administrative activities of the church. That position was given …

How do I deal with a mother-in-law who baby sits for me and tells all of my business to my sister-in-laws who are in fact SISTERS? Not rated yet
I ask my mother-in-law not to tell my business to everyone and she does anyway. My sister-in-laws are judgmental and not big fans of mine or my decisions …

Shouldn't the bride and groom send out thank you notes? Not rated yet
My nephew got married after living with a woman for 7 years. He and I had a falling out about 6 months prior to the wedding. He announced to all that I …

Dinner etiquette Not rated yet
While dining, is it rude to stop,visit and introduce those accompanying you? Example, my wife and I are dining and an old friend along with his wife and …

Are you drinking enough? Is it right statement to be posted in toilet? Not rated yet
Are you drinking enough? I have seen this statement above urinal toilets. It seems really out of place in a bathroom. What are your thoughts? Is it right? …

I'm going to visit my ex girlfriend who lives in Texas (I live in a different state) for a few days. What kind of gift should I bring, if any?  Not rated yet
Hi. I'm a lesbian in Utah and I'm going to visit my ex-girlfriend in Texas for a few days. We broke up because she got a job in Texas and I needed to stay …

Proper etiquette for niece's shower and wedding... Not rated yet
I divorced my husband 16 years ago. We have two sons. His sister and I have remained friends and her daughters have always been a part of my life even …

My husband gave me a 10th anniversary wedding gift. Do I also get him a gift for our anniversary? Not rated yet
We usually do not exchange gifts for our wedding anniversary. As a matter of fact, we both have to check the date to make sure we say Happy Anniversary …

Does the incumbent swimmer have first choice of sides when splitting a lane (not circling)? Not rated yet
I was splitting a lane with a fellow swimmer. I was on the wall. (ugh) I had to take a phone call and got out of the pool, telling the woman waiting for …

Is it proper to have a black-tie event on a Sunday evening? Not rated yet
A friend said Sunday is always "informal," never black-tie. I wanted to have a more formal event and I am not sure what to do. What would you recommend? …

My nephew is getting married this week and I was invited. Not rated yet
His mother today told me not to come to any of the festivities because I had been depressed and she wants to focus on her son and not have me around as …

To Attend A Wedding Or Not? Not rated yet
My ex and I were married 25 years with two kids. We will be divorced one year and we have both been invited to a niece's wedding. Our children too are …

My husband's son is getting married... on the church program is it correct to say Father of the Groom - his name and mine (the wife) instead of stepmother? Not rated yet
I have been married for six years (2nd marriage). My husband's son is getting married and they do not consider me their step-mom. Put it this way, their …

Is it rude to ask what someone is having for dinner if it depends whether you accept dinner invite or not? Not rated yet
My daughter is going to a friend's house for dinner and has accepted the invite now she wants to ask her friend that if she doesn't like what they are …

No gift requested at wedding vows dinner Not rated yet
My husband and I are invited to a wedding 35th renewing vows outside park event where these friends got married and then to dinner....she called to invite …

Is it rude for a teen to introduce themselves to adults without an adult introducing them first? Not rated yet
My husband introduced me to his coworker while my 14 yr old daughter was present, instead of her staying quiet....she put her hand out and said, "Hello …

As the Stepmother of the Groom should I be invited to the wedding? Not rated yet
My oldest stepson of 14 years is getting married soon. I have not heard any of the details of this wedding except form people who have received invitations. …

My boyfriend's brother invited my boyfriend's ex-wife should I go or not? Not rated yet
I found out my boyfriend's ex is going to be at the wedding. Now, I don't feel comfortable going. I've never met his family before they were married 15 …

What is appropriate wedding attire for my ex-husbands wedding? Not rated yet
I am going to my ex-husbands wedding with my husband and two children(one of which we share joint custody). We get along as any blending family can; good …

What is the proper wedding gift? Not rated yet
My ex-husband is getting remarried. We have a 12 yr old son. The relationship between us is good. My husband and him respect one another. We have been …

Am I obligated to invite my ex-son-in-law to dinner when I invite my grandkids? Not rated yet
My 18 year old grandson asked if he could come to dinner at my house today because I had previously told him that he should come by sometime for dinner. …

Do I ask my friend if I will be invited to her daughter's wedding? Not rated yet
I have been friends with this lady for about a year. I believe we have a good friendship. Since the first time we met I knew her daughter was getting married …

Do I ask if I'm invited to a wedding WHILE at the bridal shower? Not rated yet
I have been invited to a bridal shower but not received a "save the date" or invitation to the wedding. I said I'd go to the bridal shower but do I mention …

Do I get my boyfriend's brother a wedding present? Not rated yet
My boyfriend and his brother are going together to get his brother a wedding present. Both my boyfriend and his brother are groomsmen. Do us girlfriends …

What should I wear to my boyfriend's son's high school graduation party where I will meet his ex-wife for the first time? Not rated yet
What should I wear to my boyfriend's son's high school graduation party where I will meet his ex-wife for the first time? The party is in Michigan during …

Eating meat off the bone Not rated yet
My daughter was recently in a restaurant where she ordered veal milanese, when she was almost finished, she picked up the veal bone and bit the meat off …

My niece graduated from radiation therapy school and I gave her a gift. Now she just passed her boards and is officially a rad. therapist. Do I have to give another gift? Not rated yet
She is my niece, married with a child. Just gave her a graduation gift about 3 months ago. Now she has passed the big exam which qualifies her to get a …

Should my ex-husbsand's new wife be honored with flowers at our daughter's wedding? Not rated yet
My ex-husband was remarried a little less than two years ago. Our 28 year old daughter is getting married in Sept. My ex-husband has demanded that his …

Is it right to give it back now? Not rated yet
I was married to my husband for 2 years. He was sick, had Hep C, prior to us getting married. It has been 9 years since he passed now. I contacted his …

Do you get the mother of the bride a card on their wedding announcement? Not rated yet
Friend at work Do you get the mother of the bride a card on their wedding announcement? Aug 03, 2011 Getting A Card for the Mother of the Bride …

How do I word that everyone one will need to pay for their own dinner at the celebration? Not rated yet
My son will be graduating, and we are meeting for dinner, but I would like everyone to pay for their own meal. Aug 02, 2011 Graduation Celebration …

Is it okay to have a bridal shower & a honey do shower? Not rated yet
My Maid of Honor & aunt are determined to throw me a bridal shower. They are very much into old traditions & want me to be able to experience everything …

Wedding Gift Question Not rated yet
How much money would you give the bride and groom if you are not attending the wedding? Aug 02, 2011 Wedding Gift Etiquette by: Kevin (Modern …

What in-laws get invited? Not rated yet
Our son is married. We live in close proximity to his mother-in-law, brother-in-law and sister-in-law. They have spent some holidays mainly Christmas Eve …

An invited guest asks if they can invite a brother and girlfriend. Is this proper? What do you say? Not rated yet
Lobsterfest, with a jazz band. We are covering cost for lobster, alcohol and entertainment. Jul 30, 2011 Guests Inviting Guests by: Wendy (Modern …

If a person pays for dinner, is he the only one who can complain to the waiter for poor service? Not rated yet
My 90-year father is visiting town, and he took my wife and I out to dinner. He brought his 85-year-old sister along, my aunt. Not typical of most 90 year …

When the mother is a doctor and the father is Mr. Not rated yet
Dr. Susan Smith and Mr. William Smith (they are married) Jul 28, 2011 Wedding Invitation Etiquette by: Kevin (Modern Manners and Etiquette) When …

Should 'family members' be sent funeral thank you notes for their flowers as everyone else? Not rated yet
Our mother passed away. Should we send notes to our aunts, uncles and cousins for their flowers as we would others? Jul 27, 2011 Thank you notes …

What is the best way to let my daughter's friends know that I am not paying for their meal at her birthday in a restaurant? Not rated yet
My daughter is having her 40th birthday next week. We decided to celebrate it at a local restaurant with our small family. Unless we have a party in our …

Who do I invite to my 40th wedding anniversary, my son's estranged wife or his new partner? Not rated yet
My son left his wife six months ago for a woman he said was the love of his life. They have been together six months and seem very committed to each other …

How do I ask for monetary gifts for my high school graduation party? Not rated yet
I don't want to seem rude or ungrateful because I know its tacky but the only thing left that I need is my laptop and hoping to get envelopes so it can …

What type of gift should I buy for my two friends who threw a baby shower for my daughter? Not rated yet
They did not know my daughter and they invited all of my friends to attend - none of whom knew my daughter. It was a lovely shower party and everyone …

Why do long term live in couples think they deserve a gift? Not rated yet
A couple I know have been living together for more than 5 yrs (in a house she bought). They decided to get married and registered at no less than 3 department …

What is the appropriate thing for me to do about the death of a family member I disliked, but who was important to my children and grandchildren? Not rated yet
My son-in-law, Don, is a good husband and father. Don is a member of a big family. Don's stepfather has died, following a long illness. The man was …

Responding with a NOT attending, what is the minimum cash gift that should be sent? Not rated yet
We have been invited to a wedding where we know the only reason we have received the invitation is for the cash and gift value (it is known to be a practice …

Is it appropriate to throw a party for some who was laid off from work? Not rated yet
A woman I know thinks it is okay to have a going away party for a gentleman who is being laid off. The gentleman is in serious financial straits because …

Should I give a gift if I never got an invitation to the wedding? Not rated yet
My hair stylist who is also the owner of the salon recently got married. She told me about the wedding in December and she handed me a notebook and asked …

What is the right thing to do do here? Not rated yet
When he was a teen, my son fell out with his father (from whom I am divorced)over 20 years ago over a significant matter. He has not spoken to his Dad …

Does the Sister give flowers when her brother passes away? Not rated yet
Is it correct etiquette for the sister to give flowers on the death of her brother? Jul 19, 2011 Flowers by: Wendy (Modern Manners and Etiquette) …

What is the proper etiquette for inviting an ex-brother-in-law to my daughter's wedding? Not rated yet
My sister is divorced and my daughter wants to invite her ex and his girlfriend to her wedding. My sister is upset about this because he cheated on her …

As guest at a wedding is it ok to wear a corsage? Not rated yet
My friend is getting married today. l have not seen her for a few years. Jul 16, 2011 Wearing a corsage at a wedding by: Kevin (Modern Manners and …

Is is proper for the bride & groom to say I only want gift cards or money at a shower. Not rated yet
My grandson is getting married and we are giving him a Man Shower to honor him. He has decided that he wants everyone to just give him gift cards or money. …

My daughter was invited to her friend's sister's graduation party, What to give for a gift? Not rated yet
My daughter has been friends with this girl for the past year and does know her older sister. She has now been invited to the older sister's high school …

How to word invitation if Groom's Grandmother and Uncle are contributing the most and Bride's Family not contributing at all? Not rated yet
My fiance (the groom)'s maternal Uncle and Grandmother have told us they will pay for the majority of the wedding after learning that my parents will not …

Am I expected to buy a gift for my son's ex-girlfriend's wedding? Not rated yet
She broke all of our hearts a year ago when she broke up with my son and she is now getting married (14 months later) and has invited all of us (son included) …

Should we bring a gift? Not rated yet
A neighbor is having a party for their son-in-law. The daughter is actually having the party at her parent's house (they are our neighbors). We have …

What would be the correct wording on a wedding invitation to request money rather than gifts? Not rated yet
Both the Bride & Groom have been married twice before and have everything. Jun 30, 2011 Wedding invitation wording for cash gifts by: Kevin (Modern …

What is the etiquette when taking a co-worker to get frozen yogurt or a lunch as a treat to congratulate her? Not rated yet
How do I conduct myself? Do I order first? How do I ask for the bill? Jun 28, 2011 Rating starstarstarstarstar Treating Co-Workers by: Wendy (Modern …

Ex wife is having a bridal shower for my (and her) daughter. Is my new wife's family expected to attend? Not rated yet
I was in a bitter divorce 11 years ago. I remarried 1 year later. My ex is hosting a wedding shower for my (and her) daughter. My daughter doesn't want …

My ex's brother is getting married in a couple weeks, Should i send a gift? Not rated yet
They got engaged while I was with my ex and I was friendly with his fiance to be. We only broke up 2 months ago, it will be 3 months when they get married. …

Attending baby shower when paternity is in serious question? Not rated yet
Mother to be has invited the potential father to be's family to her baby shower when there are many other potential sperm donors who refuse to claim this …

Do you invite neighbors to wedding if they do not know your daughter? Not rated yet
We have neighbors we are friends with and our daughter does not know them. We just moved to the neighborhood three years ago and we are having the wedding …

How do I appropriately correct my husband's manners (or should I mind my own business)? Not rated yet
My husband frequently- in public- burps, passes gas noisily, spits, blows his nose very loudly, and wears his pants so low it exposes his backside. This …

How do I tell my sister's ex-husband that he is not invited to my wedding? Not rated yet
My sister's ex-husband is an absolute jerk and has made my sister's life a living hell. He has custody of my 11-year old niece and keeps pushing her to …

How do I rsvp to the following wedding invitation? Not rated yet
It is addressed to Ms. Peters & Guest, Sims & Meg. It is addressed to myself, a guest and my 2 daughters Sims & Meg. When I write the note to rsvp how …

What is the proper way for a woman to ask a man to be her date or her escort at her daughter's wedding? Not rated yet
I'm a divorced woman whose daughter is getting married, however I would like to ask someone I know to be my date for that special occasion and enjoy having …

What is the proper way for a woman to ask a man to be her date or her escort at her daughter's wedding? Not rated yet
I'm a divorced woman whose daughter is getting married, however I would like to ask someone I know to be my date for that special occasion and enjoy having …

Wedding is long distance...do you just send save the date to who you think might come? Not rated yet
The wedding is very long distance. Do you send everyone who is long distance save the date...or...just to those you think that might come to the wedding …

How to ask the question why I was not included on the list? Not rated yet
Committee member left my contact information out when sending out welcoming to new neighbors. Jun 20, 2011 Why were you left off of the list? by: …

What is the best way to -not- invite a fiance's ex-girlfriend (and her current boyfriend)...who also happens to be a close cousin? Not rated yet
My fiancee and I will be marrying next year and we're creating the wedding invitation list. We prefer not to have his ex-girlfriend and her current boyfriend …

What is the proper behaviour when people you don't like, come to visit??  Not rated yet
I don't like my husband's brother's girlfriend and my husband likes having his brother over for visits and brings the girlfriend with. We don't get along …

What is an appropriate monetary gift for an 80th birthday party? Not rated yet
There will be 4 of us (2 adults and 2 children) attending a reception at a modest restaurant. Jun 16, 2011 80th Birthday Gift by: Wendy (Modern …

Do I return the plate I was given with cookies on it? Not rated yet
It was my birthday, and a co-worker baked some cookies for me and gave them to me on a beautiful plate. She just said, "Happy Birthday." I really love …

Do women who wear low cut tops want a man to look down there? Not rated yet
I don't know if women that wear low cut, revealing tops want a man to look at them, there, or am I not to even glance down in that direction. It bothers …

We were invited to a wedding over a year ago, it falls on our granddaughter's 1st Birthday. Which one should we attend? Not rated yet
We have known about the wedding for over a year. We accepted the invitation. I told my daughter-in-law about the same date for both occasions. She has …

Is it proper to invite my father's ex-wife to his and my mother's wedding anniversay party?  Not rated yet
My step-siblings and I are having a surprise wedding anniversary party for our parents. They added their mom to the guest list. I believe it would be improper …

How to word on our invitation that we would like gifts?  Not rated yet
For our engagement we are planning on moving out and my sister-in-law said have like a poem saying gifts etc. How to word it? Please help... Jun 03, …

Do I give them the baby gift? Not rated yet
Bought a baby gift for my teen daughter's boyfriend's brother and wife ie; the mom's son and told the mom I had done so. After a long history of dating …

My brother is coming to my house for his vacations. Not rated yet
The thing is that we have not invited him and he is coming with his wife and 2 kids. We have no guest room nor a mini-van to accommodate all of them. He …

Thank you notes for funeral flowers  Not rated yet
We received several floral arrangements that were from 'Mr. and Mrs. Smith and families' How do we handle the thank you cards? Do we send it to Mr. …

My brother died of a heart attack 1 year ago, my son graduates on june 12, a Sunday . We are having a graduation party on the 11th are we being rude? Not rated yet
Are we doing something wrong? My brother would want us to live and go on. I think about him every day it does not have to be the anniversary of his death. …

Eating barbequed ribs and chicken legs. Not rated yet
I have always thought that certain things could be eaten with hands, such as ribs, chicken wings, chicken legs, asparagus etc: I was at a dinner when …

What is the proper way to ask co-workers to contribute to a bridal shower for another co-worker? Not rated yet
We are throwing a bridal shower for one of our co-workers. It is office approved, but we need to pay for everything. How can we ask our co-workers to …

Should we go to a graduation party we have been invited to? Not rated yet
We have been invited to my husband's niece's high school graduation party in a few weeks. He does not want to go. This young woman has not spoken to us …

Correct wording for wedding invitations Not rated yet
Both bride and groom's parents are paying equally and hosting the wedding. The groom's father is deceased. How can I include his name on the invitation? …

Should I serve alcohol for an 85th birthday from 2-4 on a Sunday? Not rated yet
I am having a drop in from 2-4 at the end of May for my father's 85th birthday. There will be sandwiches, pickles a special 3D cake a tower of macaroons …

Save The Date Was Declined, Do I still send a formal invitation? Not rated yet
I sent out save the date cards for my husbands 60th birthday party. One of the invitees called and stated they could not make the party due to a previous …

Whose mom do you spend time with on mothers day? Not rated yet
We are married, have 3 children. Both of our mothers live in town, and both want us over to their houses for a 2-3 hour event. We both love our mothers, …

What is the proper order of introducing professionals at a business reception?  Not rated yet
I had always heard the proper way of introducing professionals to one another is through the order of hierarchy. So, I would introduce my boss (the most …

Hard feelings over missing "Please" Not rated yet
I am a very considerate and polite person. I think it's very rare to find someone who actually treats people they come across as, well, people, and I am …

What is acceptable etiquette for knowing that a relative newborn may not live? Not rated yet
I have relatives that are going to have their first baby. The doctors have said that the baby only has a 5% chance of living. We are going to attend …

What are the rules of etiquete when talking to a person? Not rated yet
I have a friend who looks at other people while he is talking to someone. He doesn't look the person in the eye when he is talking,but looks across the …

Should i buy graduation gifts for my daughter's friends who are also graduating? Not rated yet
My daughter is graduating high school and of course all of her friends are graduating also. I just want to know whether I should buy them all gifts too? …

My brother gave me a cd that I already had, I gave it back to him and explained I already had that one, bad move? Not rated yet
I hope I didn't offend my brother but, he said he didn't have that movie himself and I thought I had it when I opened it at Christmas. I told him I would …

How do you handle birthday invites with triplets?  Not rated yet
My daughter is friends with a set of triplets. She gets along with all three but is really good friends with only one. She is having a birthday party …

Is it wrong not to invite the dog too? Not rated yet
In-laws got a dog. They expected to bring Fido along with them while they visit with us for a few days. They didn't ask, just expected it. Some …

1. What is etiquette on returning personal phone calls? 2. What is etiquette on guests insisting on bringing their dogs to your house? Does the owner of the house have the right to decline? Not rated yet
Sister in law never returns other family members phone calls. Calls are made to her and messages are left, but no return call is ever made. My in-laws …

How to inform my family & accept the man I love as family? Not rated yet
I have met & been in love with this man I met online for 14 yrs., we have lived together off and on, I was married to my late husband, 20 yrs. age difference …

Does the mother of the bride help her go shopping for the dress? Not rated yet
This is ruining the whole thing for me. My ex husband, who has financially spoiled our daughter is going to Denver tomorrow to watch our daughter try …

How do I RSVP to a wedding invitation? Not rated yet
My husband and I were both invited to a wedding, but only I will attend. The RSVP card has an "M" on it. Do I fill in Mrs. John Smith will attend or …

When you are a guest at someone's home and you spend the night, should you offer to take the sheets off the bed, make the bed, or just leave the be unmmade? Not rated yet
I had guests and they left the bed unmade, just wondered if this is the proper thing to do. Apr 05, 2011 House Guest Bed Etiquette by: Wendy (Modern …

At what point is one overstepping boundaries when trying to contact someone?  Not rated yet
A male friend of mine (single) saw on a facebook post put up by one of my girlfriends that I was meeting her and two other friends, (men who neither of …

When sending an announcement or invitation is there a tactful way to request that no gifts be given to the Bride and Groom Not rated yet
We are both older and each has previously been married. We are not having a wedding but a celebration both before (on the east coast) and after (on the …

What do we do with something we don't want to eat, that it's already in our mouth ? (Eating Etiquette) Not rated yet
Let's say, we consume olives at the table. What is the proper way to eat them and 'spit' the seeds out and where is the right place we should put them. …

Is it proper to correct someone who has made an incorrect statement? Not rated yet
Let's say that someone refers to Ginnie Brown-Waite as "Ginnie Waite-Brown." May I say, "Her name is Ginnie Brown-Waite" without getting the response, …

How should my new wife sign her name? Not rated yet
We just got married and want to know the proper way for my wife to sign her name. Is it Mrs. Kristi Ryan, Mrs. Shanon (my name) Ryan or just Mrs. Ryan? …

Is it rude not to accept a gift of a paid vacation? Not rated yet
Gift is to all extended family members. Family members wish to plan their own vacations. Family members wish to pay their own way so they aren't made …

Death of a loved one. Not rated yet
A close son just lost a loved one, his dear father. How would you approach someone to comfort that grieving person? Mar 05, 2011 Comforting Someone …

How do I tell guest on my "e-vite" that appetizers are included but dinner is not? for my party Not rated yet
10 year anniversary with my wife and we are inviting friends and family over to a restaurant for dinner. We will be paying for the initial appetizers …

Is it okay to ask a great uncle and his family to bring an appetizer to your baby's birthday party? Not rated yet
We were asked by the father of the child to bring an appetizer for the child's first birthday party. We have never heard of this and we foot the bill …

Do we give a gift when a person walks or upon completion of classes? Not rated yet
Person just finished school, final trimester. After a week long spring break he will be beginning work at a company which has already hired the individual. …

Is it proper Etiquette for someone to ask if you are giving them a gift? Not rated yet
I was invited to a baby shower but due to business demands I could not make it nor could I get a gift to this one. I did RSVP that I could not attend …

What is proper ettiquette for when and where to wear a hood? Not rated yet
My 15 year old son doesn't believe that it matters if he wears the hood to his hoodie indoors or in social settings. He thinks it is just me who thinks …

Is it appropropreiate to ask someone to step aside to have a private conversation when they are out with someone else?  Not rated yet
I was out, ski boot shopping to be exact, with my boyfriend and his ex-wife passes by and sees him in the shop. She sticks her head into the store to say …

How to tell a co-worker that they smell bad? Not rated yet
We have a co-worker that smells really bad. What should we do? Dec 06, 2010 How To Help "Pinching Nostrils" by: Kevin (Modern Manners) Dear Pinching …

Is it required that you serve alcohol durning an afternoon semi formal lunch / anniversary party Not rated yet
40th wedding anniversary lot's of MD's will attend. 2 pm lunch semi formal with a slide show. Do we need to have beer and wine? Dec 06, 2010 Rating …

Should a spouse wait for her husband to join a drink "cheers" if he is pooring the drinks. Not rated yet
My wife and I and another couple got together for a visit last night and my wife initiated a cheers before I had poured my drink. After wards, I mentioned …

Is there proper etiquette for a Private Jet flight attendant? Not rated yet
I have recently applied for a job as a private jet flight attendant, and I want to make sure I use the correct etiquette while I'm serving the passengers …

How would you deal with a co-worker who is constantly gossiping? Not rated yet
There is a co-worker who is always gossiping in the lunch room about other co-workers, especially ones that I like. How would you deal with that? Oct …

How would you deal with a co-worker who is constantly late getting back from lunch which often makes you late leaving for lunch? Not rated yet
a co-worker is constantly late getting back from lunch which often makes me late leaving for lunch, how should I deal with it? Jan 31, 2011 or maybe. …

Salutations in Business Not rated yet
When responding to a written request for additional information on our firm's professional services what is the best salutation to utilize when I have …

Is it rude to attend the wedding of someone you never knew existed? Not rated yet
My husband has a friend whom he hunts with a great deal and he occasionally does business with. This friend's daughter is getting married and we have …


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